Table manners play an important part making a favorable impression anywhere; a formal setting or even a first date they reflect our class and value and are also essencial to professional success. Whether we are having launch with a prospective employer or dinner with a business associate or a date our manners can speak volumes about us.
Should you be attending a formal dinner or banquet with pre-set place settings this easter season, it is important to have an idea of what will be served by “reading” the place setting the plate will be placed in the centre of your dining space. According to Sola Alao of rolatirade table settings and accessories, the table will be set according to your menu. “Everything is to your right- your cutlery, your glasses align to the right of your cutlery. Some people have it straight, some have it curved.
I personally like it curved that way, it’s easier to reach. It is important to place the glassware or cup back in the same position after its use in order to maintain the visual presence of the table to the left all of the following will be placed; bread and butter plate (including small butter knife placed horizontally across the top of the plate), salad plate, napkin, and forks. remembering the rule of uliquids on your rightd and isolids on your leftl will help you quickly get familiar with the place setting.
If, after looking over the menu and there are items you are uncertain about, ask your server any questions you may have. answering your questions is part of the server’s job. It is better to find out before you order so that your order is not prepared with something you do not like or are allergic to than to spend the entire meal picking tentatively at your food.
An employer will generally suggest that your order be taken first; his or her order will be taken last. sometimes, however, the server will decide how the ordering will proceed. often, women’s orders are taken first before men’s.
As a guest, you should not order one of the most expensive items on the menu or more than two courses unless your host indicates that it is all right.
The meal begins when the host unfolds his or her napkin. This is your signal to do the same. Place your napkin on your lap completely unfolded if it is a small luncheon napkin or in half lengthwise if it is a large dinner napkin.
Typically, you want to put your napkin on your lap soon after sitting down at the table (but follow your host’s lead). The Napkin remains on your lap throughout the entire meal and should be used to gently blot your mouth when needed. If you need to leave the table during the meal, place your napkin on your chair as a signal to your server that you will be returning.
The host will signal the end of the meal by placing his or her napkin on the table. Once the meal is over, you too should place your napkin neatly on the table to the right of your dinner plate (do not refold your napkin, but don’t wad it up, either.)
Use of silverware
There are two ways to use a knife and fork to cut and eat your food. They are the american style and the european or continental style. Either style is considered appropriate. In the american style, one cuts the food by holding the knife in the right hand and the fork in the left hand with the fork tines piercing the food to secure it on the plate. Cut a few bite-size pieces of food then lay your knife across the top edge of your plate with the sharp edge of the blade facing in. Change your fork from your left to your right hand to eat, fork tines facing up. (if you are left-handed, keep your fork in your left hand, tines facing up.) The european or continental style is the same as the american style in that you cut your meat by holding your knife in your right hand while securing your food with your fork in your left hand. The difference is, your fork remains in your left hand, tines facing down and the knife in your right hand. Simply eat the cut pieces of food by picking them up with your fork still in your left hand.
When you have finished
Do not push your plate away from you when you have finished eating. Leave your plate where it is in the place setting. The common way to show that you have finished your meal is to lay your fork and knife diagonally across your plate.
Place your knife and fork side by side with the sharp side of the knife facing inward and the fork tines down to the left of the knife.
The knife and fork should be placed as if they are pointing to the numbers 10 and 4 on a clock face. Make sure they are placed in such a way that they do not slide off the plate as it is being removed.
Once you have used a piece of silverware, never place it back on the table. Do not leave a used spoon in a cup either. Rather, place it on the saucer. You can leave a soup spoon in a soup plate. Any unused silverware is simply left on the table.
Major ‘no’ ‘no’ on the table are smarting your plate with your cutlery while eating, sipping with so much noise and talking with your mouth full.
If you are eating out this val or easter season, keep to the rules of the game. It only shows one thing- you’ve got class.
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